Communication Theory & Practice (CTP) Blog 2: The Social Penetration Theory
The Social Penetration Theory explains how information exchange functions in both the growth and conclusion of interpersonal relationships. Specifically accomplished through self-disclosure, social penetration describes the process of bonding that moves a relationship from superficial to more intimate. Both vital to social penetration, the first dimension of self-disclosure is breadth (the number of the topics discussed) and the second is depth (the degree of intimacy that guides these interactions).
When I was in my freshman year of college, I lived out of state and had two roommates who I had never met before. The first few times we interacted, there wasn’t much to say and I always struggled to keep the conversation going. Desperately trying to think of any possible similarities I had with either of them, I was constantly trying to establish some sort of middle ground where I could relate to them. Because I lived with them, I obviously couldn’t avoid seeing them, and with each time we saw each other, the conversations seemed to become more detailed (the increase in breadth). As this took place, I noticed that I was getting closer with them (the increase in depth), ultimately sharing more personal information. It was odd because I was now deeply communicating with these individuals who I hadn’t known my entire life. I began telling them things about myself that I wouldn’t just tell to anyone. My personal struggles, my home life, my relationships (past and present), etc. We became so close, but we wouldn’t have been able to without talking about ourselves. The theory expresses that you must self-disclose in order to take your level of communication to the next level, and depending on how high the levels of breadth and depth get, a close relationship has the potential to develop, as well.
A useful metaphor that describes how the Social Penetration Theory operates is the “Onion Model”. It elaborates on social penetration as a process through which people “peel back” others’ layers of personal information through interpersonal interaction to reach the core. It takes time to reach another’s “core self,” the most intimate details about another person.
I can definitely relate to this theory, especially the onion model. Trying to open up to new people can be hard at first. You never know if you will be judged for talking about certain things. So amazing to hear you made some great friends being at your old college. Being in an out of state college you need as many close relationships as possible. No one ever wants to feel alone. Like you said, the more time you spent with them, the more you were able to open up about yourself and be able to act like your true self without the worry of being judged.
ReplyDeleteI do agree with you when you described how it felt like you became closer in your relationships by expressing yourself to those other people. I think being in a new environment can definitely make it more challenging to create new relationships, but sometimes in order to make new relationships, some people need to take that leap and express who they are. I'm currently trying to do that more now since this is my freshman year and I am trying to form new friendships. You did an amazing job describing this.
ReplyDeleteWhat you described here is very relatable. As a current college freshman, I am in the midst of trying to adjust to the new environment and make meaningful connections. New environments can be challenging for me, and coming to college has not been an exception. However, I know logically that I will eventually connect with people over time. I'm glad you had an overall positive experience forming relationships your freshman year!
ReplyDeleteEven thought this is my second year in college, I can still relate to it being your first year at school and how scary it can be just know that you will meet new people and I know it can be a hard agistment it will take time getting used to but you will be fine
ReplyDeleteI love the onion model! As someone who enjoys connecting with people, this theory really resonates with me. With 5 years of experience in retail, I've honed my ability to build connections, and I'm so grateful for that. I often apply the onion model, whether in brief interactions with patients at work or when meeting someone new. I love seeing people open up and feel comfortable enough to share parts of their lives with me.
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